I had gotten really into observing the online gender wars. It was entertaining for a while, and then it started to get pretty depressing. You had people on both sides of these issues who are passionate about the parts that they care about — but what they’re really passionate about is arguing, and making the other side look bad.
After a while, I realized that I either needed to stop observing it or I needed to try to help fix it. So I started thinking that what we needed was an actual solutions- and positivity-focused men’s group, where we could talk about these issues that are so important but ditch some of the bad habits of what we’ve seen before.
Not sure exactly how the lemmy.ca community came to be but I suppose it’s a continuation of the subreddit, vox has the original story in form of an interview: