I say do it. LGBTQ+ meet ups have always been some of the most welcoming groups I’ve found. I think the fact that we’re all always so on guard around everyone for safety reasons and not having to do that in these kinds of groups makes people in the groups more open and the events more welcoming.

I actually mostly hang out with a Wiccan group, even though I’m fully atheist (as are many in the group). The ceremonies are just a lot of fun and kind of like doing improv rather than “religious”, and they keep a regular cadence of holidays throughout the year. But there’s also the deep respect for nature, including people, that makes them very welcoming to all races, genders, sexualities, neurodivergences (I’m AuDHD, too), etc.

Of course every “pagan” group is going to be different since the specifics of the traditions are partly lost to time and colonialism. And there has been a surge of people and corporations in these spaces trying to sell supplements and crystals and other nonsense that has increased the number of toxic groups claiming to be Wiccan or Pagan or whatever, but I happened to find a group that, although not perfect, is pretty good for me.

So, usually it’s been worth the effort for me. I live in a city but hate driving and public transit is not great, so I don’t go out a lot, but it’s been well worth the spoons for me. And don’t be discouraged if the first one doesn’t work. It takes time to find the right group of people.