I am a social guy, talking to people comes quite natural to me. Therefore I make friends easily. I have had a ton of crushes and was also in love for a couple of times. However I have never had any relationship to speak of (I’m 25, btw), and I feel like I’m missing out on something.

When it comes to relationships I honestly don’t know how people do it. I don’t know what makes someone “like” someone else, safe for their appearance. Or how someone “starts” to see another as a romantic partner rather than platonic. I feel like I only know how to serve friendship. So how do people develop feelings for someone?

  • jbrains@sh.itjust.works
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    5 days ago

    I just don’t know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.

    You don’t. It’s complex and subtle and annoying. 😉

    You don’t turn someone who doesn’t love you into some who does. You keep looking until you find a person who was already going to love you. And there are many, even when it doesn’t seem like there are. And it takes a maddeningly long time for some folks. It did for me.

        • throwawaysalami@lemm.eeOP
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          5 days ago

          but then what is your actual challenge here?

          I don’t know, that’s a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

          • jbrains@sh.itjust.works
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            5 days ago

            It’s not clear to me yet what you want: not too serious, but more than friends, so… sex? Not judging, just trying to understand. And maybe you don’t know yet.

            • throwawaysalami@lemm.eeOP
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              4 days ago

              I mean, I’ll take what I can get (short term, long term). As I said I have never had any sort of relationship to speak of so I wouldn’t really know. But casual sex would be best for me as things are now.