context: i have a musical project on my own (had a line up but i broke it off bc we werent getting anywhere) and I would really want to expand it, maybe find someone who is willing to play my music, but its been hard. My music is a little complicated both rhythmically and compositionwise and its hard finding ppl who can keep up with it and that’s understandable: not everyone has grown up listening to jazz and is a music theory nerd like me. The problem is, my former drummer entered a band that does the same genre i do (shoegaze) and they’re already taking gigs and whatnot. Thus i feel like I’m behind in that regard, that i will never be able to make my music into something. Rn it’s more of a bedroom solo project and I’m afraid it’ll just keep being that

  • capc8m@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    4 days ago

    Comparing yourself to others is a sure way to be unhappy. Instead you could compare yourself to your past self.

  • theblips@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    It’s just how things are when we are into niche stuff, I went through this a lot when I was younger. You need to adapt: turn the project solo, look for online collaborators, find an established shoegaze community locally and introduce them to your ideas slowly…

  • YewEyeOwe31@lemmings.world
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    4 days ago

    I wish I had some good advice to give, but all I have to say is that rhythmically complex shoegaze sounds like a really cool idea, and I hope you have some success in the future!