I think after comming out as a transfem and despite all my partners are in the fem-spectrum and I make jokes on being a lesbean because of that, I enjoy reading BL (not having so much time but I fucking love it) to the point of considering myself a fujoshi x3

  • Linda R@nord.pub
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    6 days ago

    How is it a joke that a woman desiring women is a lesbian?

    What do you actually mean with that?

    • Echedelle (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      6 days ago

      if i am also liking boys and people in the nyan-binary spectrum i am not a lesbian.

      i just say that i am because accidentally i have gfs. and also is a reference to how the society is biphobic/panphobic (the line is drawn in their minds when someone is poly and they say that those are just vicious or similar)

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        5 days ago

        I don’t think there’s a real problem outside of the same groups that tend to be TERFs to call yourself lesbian if you are technically bi/pan but lean towards women as partners.

        I’ve never had a lesbian complain about me calling myself lesbian despite being attracted to all genders. I have only ever experienced straight people complaining about the technicality. But I do know there is that weird way of thinking out there that bi women are really straight and just wanting to experiment. I haven’t dated a man in probably a decade, though I have made out with a couple of them. I just don’t often have romantic feelings for men. Sexuality and romantic alignment are rarely binary. It’s mostly those who are questioning their own alignment and want to deflect who like to complain about others.

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            3 days ago

            Which are the same people who I mentions are now TERFs who I avoid and thus don’t have any complain about such stupid things.