The only group that’s ever accepted me and has welcomed me without doing that so far has been my local drama group (and, of course, this place :) ). There, it seems my “Golden retriever” energy is always welcomed and in fact valued. What’s been your experience?
I know your feelings, I had to learn to not overwhelm the people with my energy if I don’t know them enough.
Even my cat is like ‘leave me alone, wtf is wrong with you?’ This is the long road to becoming a socially acceptable person. None of this is written down or ever stated by anyone but if you violate social norms too much you end up quite lonely.