good morning!
anyways this post is about whether crying makes me feel good or bad. one would superficially think that crying is a “bad” thing, because that’s how we’ve always been taught as a kid. “oh no, look you made them / her / him cry. you can’t do that kind of stuff”. so crying has a bad association.
yet like i keep saying, (human) life needs both laughter and crying, just like plants need both sunshine and rainfall.¹ And even when i feel like shaking from the emotions; i still recognize that this is what life is supposed to be all about; having all the emotions, including the “bad” ones. it’s just in our modern times that we’ve saught an imbalance in things, but that’s neither sustainable nor right.
idk whether you can understand these thoughts; but they came to me while i contemplated whether i should post “i can cry again” into the trans_joy community. is it “joy”? i would say yes, but a deeper, less superficial type of joy than when one’s laughing. it’s not so much a superficial expression of joy, but a deeper feeling that things are right.
unrelated stuff about the german language
[1]: the german phrase is “Sonnenschein und Regen”, it’s a beautiful phrase. i’m saying this because i kinda think that while people enjoy shitting on the german language a lot (deservedly) for all its Artikel and grammatical complexity, some phrases and words are actually outright beautiful, and this is one of them.
for all its Artikel and grammatical complexity
For people who are already know languages that are gendered and quite complex (which is true for… Quite a lot of languages actually) this is not a hard part. Most of the stuff is already exist in other languages in one way or shape. You just need to wire concepts from your language to German, which surprisingly is working, for the most part.
The problem is, that most of this concept in German language does not rely on some logic to follow or consistency, but rather RULES, EXEMPTIONS TO RULES, and remembering everything, because it is the only way.
Example of this is gendered words aka Artikels. You have words Apfel. That’s it. How do you know it is he? You don’t, you need to remember. You don’t have anything to guess or using simple solution to deduct gender. There is one oh many rules like “alcoholic beverages are him” with expectation of beer because it is it. And that is how how it work in German language.
Recently we started learning such weird concept as “verbs of moving” which determine if it going to be “ich habe etwas gekauften” or “ich bin nach Hause gekommen”. How to I differentiate? I do not know, but apparently “tanzen” is not about moving, despite the idea of dance is to move, so it is “habe”, not “bin” ☹️
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
I’m gonna take this on a tangent and say that, while I don’t agree that german is a beautiful language, I still love it. For me at least, articulating my feelings is sooo much easier in English. When I try it in German it feels just wrong.
German, however, is the most beautiful language for anything technical. The fact that we can plop words together to our liking makes so many things so much easier. Take the word “friction” - “Reibungswiderstand” for example. Reibungswiderstand basically just consists of Reibung (rubbing) and wiederstand (resistance). Rubbing resistance basically already describes what the word itself is, instead of needing a new word.
Oh my god yes, it’s like I was cut off from an entire realm of emotional and bodily understanding. I felt these emotions the entire time (and worse), but there was no way of externalizing them.
Oh yes, the “boys don’t cry” notion of patriarchy. Men who always get angry instead of sad are often powertripping or violent but mostvof them are victims of the system, in a way…
I’m sorry you had to feel the system treating you as a man and imposing such limits but I’m glad you found your solution.
Crying is the shit, I love it so much. Never was able to before hrt and now I’ll cry for an hour for almost any reason and it feels great.
Pretty much the same here, it’s like that valve was blocked and now all the pressure releases .
in 2026 noch fleisch zu essen ist crazy
Come on, diese reisbällchen sind einfach nur n banger
Klar, aber die Onigiri gibt’s auch mit Kimchi oder Shiitake, beides vegane Varianten.
crying is a good thing to me, what causes me to cry can be good, bad, mundane, whatever. but being able to cry again is universally amazing to me, it releases my emotions instead of bottling them up against my will
