Honestly, I’m not overly worried about it. If I do and got a diagnosis, it might help bring a little more understanding, but the ADHD explains most of my problems (and strengths). lol. So I’ll probably continue to waffle a bit.
But knowing my wife has it for sure helps. We’ve definitely made some adjustments that just make sense now.
My dad almost certainly has ADHD but never got a diagnosis. In his case, it’s more like my possible autism - if he does have ADHD which we’re all (including him) pretty convinced, he managed to mask / cope well enough throughout his life - a diagnosis seems like a “whatever why bother”.
Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it’s ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)
Speaking of which, your comment made me smile. No matter the exact mix of stuff, it does seems like a lot of us find each other, one way or another. lol. That’s why my wife and I married - half a decade before our diagnosis - because we were the only people laughing at each others’ jokes. lol
Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it’s ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)
Something I love about this community is that we can be ourselves. I think people here are understanding that what you are describing is one way ADHD/autistic people express empathy and connect with each other. No need to qualify it!
My spouse and I both sought formal diagnosis last year. I had been on ADHD meds for two years by then and he has not been on any.
I went for ADHD and Autism and he did ADHD only. One year later he’s like, um, I guess I’m autistic too eh?
Sharing in case it makes any thing feel more ‘normal’.
Honestly, I’m not overly worried about it. If I do and got a diagnosis, it might help bring a little more understanding, but the ADHD explains most of my problems (and strengths). lol. So I’ll probably continue to waffle a bit.
But knowing my wife has it for sure helps. We’ve definitely made some adjustments that just make sense now.
My dad almost certainly has ADHD but never got a diagnosis. In his case, it’s more like my possible autism - if he does have ADHD which we’re all (including him) pretty convinced, he managed to mask / cope well enough throughout his life - a diagnosis seems like a “whatever why bother”.
Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it’s ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)
Speaking of which, your comment made me smile. No matter the exact mix of stuff, it does seems like a lot of us find each other, one way or another. lol. That’s why my wife and I married - half a decade before our diagnosis - because we were the only people laughing at each others’ jokes. lol
Something I love about this community is that we can be ourselves. I think people here are understanding that what you are describing is one way ADHD/autistic people express empathy and connect with each other. No need to qualify it!
Hah, well, you know how it is - masking and apologizing becomes instinct. Thank you for the lovely reminder <3