OK, I’ve seen enough of these comments that I need to make the first rule.
Do not make condescending comments like “This is just normal things everyone does, not your self-diagnosed ADHD.” or “Everyone has ADHD now /s”
This is a meme community for ADHD people, not your personal soapbox. We don’t care why you think we find these relatable.
Making comments like these is causing those posting these memes to be discouraged, and dismissing their lived experiences. Don’t be that person.
Just for the record, not every ADHD person is the same. I don’t identify with all of these memes, nor do I think they’re all necessarily ADHD-related. But even as someone with ADHD, I recognize that not every reacts the same way and I don’t know all the possible symptoms of it. And If I, with diagnosed ADHD can’t know that, you, a random lemming, certainly don’t know either!
Likewise, if you find most of these memes relatable, you might have ADHD, or you might have Autism, or both! These two are close cousins, their symptoms overlap and they have a high comorbidity with each other. Relating too much with ADHD memes is a typical first step which led a lot of people to realizing they had it! Feel free to read up on the ADHD symptoms and get diagnosed if you think it’s currently affecting your life significantly.
That said, anyone making this sort of comments, is gonna get a one-week ban from this community for party pooping. If you want to complain that “everyone has ADHD now” or some shit, go do it elsewhere. Naturally we use common sense. It’s OK to ask questions in good faith.
As always, this is a “fuck around and find out” rule. We’ll know it when we see it.
PS: Since we added a new rule, I could also use some mods to enforce it. If any of you is up for this, lemme know. I will only add people who I’ve seen interact with this or other ADHD communities positively.
And here’s an extremely relevant meme to lighten the mood:
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Hello there! I’m feeling called out here as I made one such comment a couple days ago.
Even though I did ask what was special about those things and complain about self diagnosed people, I hope it was clear that I did so out of genuine curiosity rather than trolling or whatnot.
I also wish to tell you that the community’s answers - implying, as you do here, that I may relate because I also suffer from adhd or related - got me intrigued enough to start digging and I am now on track to proper clinical triage, as if confirmed that would explain a lot about my life, and if confirmed and treated it could be one of the greatest turning points of my adulthood.
So my point - those comments may not be all aggressive and maybe a ban would be a disproportionate response (it would surely have had a wholly different effect on me). Perhaps you could consider a link to this post instead (think automod linking to faqs on Reddit?) and using bans in case of clear offensiveness and recidivism?
No it wasn’t about you. The people acting like this have received a ban. Your comments were ok as it was curious you had an open mind.
I am very glad this lead you to a breakthrough. This is why ADHD memes are so important.
Also should be underlined that ADHD is sometimes called an “invisible handicap” because a lot of the symptoms are just much worse versions of things neurotypicals deal with too.
Example: everyone can have trouble motivating themselves for a task they’re not passionate about. With ADHD’s innate dopamine deficiency,it can be literally impossible without proper coping tools and/or meds, sometimes no matter what.
A possibly useful analogy would be that sometimes the hill that someone neurotypical has to climb is a mountain for someone with ADHD or similar challenges. Not every neurotypical person understands that their hill can be a mountain or that the person with ADHD can only scale it with the right tools, guidance and a lot more effort.
a lot more effort
I want to highlight this part. Part of the executive dysfunction is that intrinsic rewards don’t feel rewarding OR reward too much.
Filling out paperwork can be a short 10 minute task, but nuerotypical individuals are rewarded with a small dopamine hit for simply finishing it. I don’t get any. So anything else that is slightly more interesting captures my attention and energy. In my experience, I get a dopamine hit for avoiding the boring mandatory thing, not so much whatever the thing distracting me is. This quickly snowballs out of control and a 10 minute task took all day.
Likewise, things that are very interesting to me (video games, hobby stuff, the Wikipedia hole) can trigger a lot of reward and I end up hyperfocusing.
Adderall helps by reducing the power of those interesting things and increases the reward for doing mundane things.
Do you welcome adhd-symptoms people too ? The specialist I seen told I wasn’t adhd ‘classical’ as my symptoms was too weak before my long-term (until death) disorder made them worse.
We welcome everyone, even if they don’t have ADHD. I just don’t want people to be putting down others in the comments
I can mod. I just need clear and specific guidelines and instructions.
