I put it in the other thread, but only once has that been transcendent for me. Generally when I am tired I feel much less. I say mornings are for my husband and afternoons are for me, once I am really awake and have had calories and caffeine everything feels better.

There is a desperateness to the exhausted sex that can add something for sure but not worth the tradeoff for me in general.

Is quite nice for an isolated dick pic, lol. Also you do look perfect size btw. But isolated pictures of genitals not my thing.

Absolutely clear minded, stone sober sex is my favorite, I’ve never really enjoyed it as much while drunk or on any drugs except for one time coming down from LSD had an amazing time but I think that was an outlier.

Generally speaking I prefer to feel everything, and I feel it better when starting out clear of mind. And awake, though again, one exception - one time my ex caught me at exactly the right level of sleepiness, I felt like all the inessential layers of personality had been peeled back and it was amazing, relaxed but so intense.

I don’t feel qualified to speak on behalf of womanhood, but would say don’t worry much about being erect, we are looking at the whole body, and just look at it yourself, do you like it? Like if it was a picture of someone else.

Also if you have someone who likes the way you look, let them take pictures, it makes a difference.

In order of preference

BDSM stories (M/f, either perspective but M perspective best)

Other erotica, heterosexual or bisexual ok but like some straight action in there

BDSM still images (M/f)

Artsy nudes for drawing practice, especially male nudes not erect

Fit chicks (inspirational)

Amateur couples where the guy is as hot as the lady

Some of the gay man stuff, particularly D/s or any power imbalance like that.

The fuck? We shower before getting into bed. Makes mornings easier and keeps the bed nicer and I sleep better. They are getting into bed dirty?

None of the ones I worried about. I only wear clothes to bed if I know there is something happening really early (like if I have to take someone to the airport at 4:00) and want to be able to roll out of bed and go. The kids know not to open the door, I have 3 different robes for different temperatures, and husband has shorts ready to jump into in case of emergency - he is more of an early bird than me.

The only thing that really bothers me is dreams. If I am dreaming I’m not sure who is in the bed with me and will panic and put on a shirt before even quite waking up enough to realize I’m with my husband!

What I worried about was the fucking palmetto bugs getting on me (they are outside bugs but get in sometimes in the rainy season and they are my phobia) but the insect apocalypse seems to have reduced their population precipitously, which is terrifying of course but not in the way I had feared. And nothing so urgent and requiring me to be clothed has happened that I would not have time to throw on clothes and flip flops to handle it.

Overall, sleeping naked with my husband is the best.

Is she getting off? I think it’s normal, this happens to my guy (we are your age - ETA: we are both in good shape, and you look like you are too, I don’t think it’s a health thing). If YOU are ok with it and she is getting off, it’s not a problem, you can consider it edging and fuck again later, that’s what we do. Evening is for me, morning for him.

Also - he does sometimes take half a Cialis, if she likes PIV consider it - so hard he feels bigger inside me, it’s great.

The only time it’s a drag is when he really wants to cum at night, it does seem to take forever (though I do get to cum kind of a lot when this happens, I get so exhausted).

So I guess my suggestion, since you sleep together, is just go to sleep when she’s done and take advantage of the morning when you have a better chance of getting off, let that be for you.

For every person making thousands, there are thousands of people making pennies, I don’t think it’s worth it. Hustling is such a drag, and to do that as your main source of income very dangerous.

No, I don’t think it’s looked down upon here, there are a lot of commercial accounts, for better or worse I’m not sure, but promoting seems to be allowed.

As a side job it might make sense but I’d strongly suggest (as a mom to lots of kids) finding a trade you can enjoy, if you don’t want to do university. Electrician, barber, welder, mechanic - something skilled will bring in more money with less stress, and you are at a perfect age to start. Even working your way up at Whole Foods or Costco or some other good grocery, there are more jobs than you might think.

Not while he is in me, no, it’s more don’t stop, please more, or please cum in me, depending. But before, sure, sometimes, like if we are just playing with each other and my mind gets stuck on something not sexy I will usually pause to talk

Inside, absolutely.

Outside is just for porn, I don’t understand wanting that for participating in sex. We evolved to want it in us.

Sapiosexuals are wholesome as fuck, it’s so cool to get turned on by someone’s wit and knowledge.

Best vaginal penetration 10/10 - face to face angled so there is some stimulation of vulva too, that is the most physically pleasurable way to get off.

Best anal is just not hurting, maybe 5, not bad not great, it’s only good if the guy likes it, and isn’t too big - I had a partner hung long but not thick, it felt pretty good with him but:

Both? One guy in ass and one in vagina? So good. It does add to the pleasure in that situation, certainly. Like 11/10. But the one in the ass kind of still not the more active.

ETA: I also really like when guys prefer vaginal, like you do. Even if they like both, even if they are bi, if they get off easiest in the pussy and prefer it that is the hottest feeling.