Do you know which area you’re going to end up living in yet? The reason I ask is because there are services aimed towards kids with autism and ADHD, where they can meet other kids in the same situation, and potentially make friends. They’re obviously focused on their own areas though, and as far as I know, don’t put the kids in touch with kids from other areas.
There can be a stigma around groups like these, as people assume that it’s only people with more severe issues who need them, but my nine year old has been going to one for several years, and for most of the kids it’s just somewhere where they don’t have to mask. It’s really helped my kid to have an outlet away from school, and to meet other ‘different’ kids. I haven’t looked at the groups for older kids yet, but I’d be surprised if there wasn’t a provision.
Something else that might be useful for you both, are the various coffee mornings that have sprung up since Covid. They tend to be aimed towards helping with mental health, but a lot of them are more like an excuse to get out of the house and meet people. I visit one once a week which is run by Signpost Cymru, a mental health charity, so it means that they’ve got access to mental health resources if anyone needs them. It’s very handy, and like I said, gets me out of the house for a few hours and talking to people I wouldn’t have otherwise met.
Be kind to yourself. You’re in a new city in a new country, where everything’s similar to what you know, but different enough to be confusing, and you’re doing it to make sure that your family is safe. I would imagine that you’re tired from the move, the travel, and the job search, but you’re still making an effort to put your daughter first.
I don’t post a lot here, but I lurk most days, and from what I’ve read, you seem like a good guy. Take a breath and take care of yourself too, you’ll get there :)