Truth doesn’t feel good. People want to feel good.

Psychologically it’s not different than biology in the sense that people don’t want to work out and eat healthy… they want to be lazy and eat energy dense food.

Yep. Anger and egotism are proven my studies to basically be like taking a hit of cocaine. It gets people off.

Bingo. This is the fundamental disconnect I encounter on a daily basis. All anyone wants to do is lecture me about how they are right, and I am wrong if I think different than them. And if you don’t give into them they simply start insulting or shaming you, hoping they can emotionally abuse you into compliance with their beliefs. Or they just think you are evil and divide the world up into hyperbolic terms.

That isn’t how you learn or win people over to your side. All it does is promote ignorance & alienation, and that’s what we have an overabundance of in our current society.

I’m apparently old-fashioned/out of date, but I went to college to learn how to understand, assess, and communicate with other people… seems like that is no longer what people are taught or at least, no longer value it.

Because it is disingenuous. Most feminism frames the world in terms of women’s interests and experiences, and elevates them above men’s. It doesn’t seem a middle ground or acknowledge the difference in the sexes. It just sort of adopts ‘women are wonderful’ bias through and through, without realizing that women can be, and often are, awful people.

Liberation requires acknowledging our shared humanity outside of identity labels, but that type of thinking isn’t emotionally motivating for people because it can’t take a ‘us vs them’ approach.