Kinda sounds like you might feel at home in the polyamory community.

Lots of people who aren’t “in it” don’t have that sort of energy

I have a hard time imagining telling my wife that “I’m not comfortable” with her doing something she wants to do unless it is something outright dangerous.

Its just a matter of boundaries and agreements really. Most mono couples have an implied set of rules rather than customising their relationship experience by doing the work to define boundaries together. Very much a societal thing i think.

Whether or not you were planning on swinging, that option is now in Wills head and he’s afraid Janet might participate.

In the end it’s just jealousy, but most people struggle with that emotion some times, no matter their relationship type.

The dream would be to get the closest group together to buy land (or take them with to the family home if there’s space), to build a community together.

Same! Pre / post uni friends is the rough line for me. I have one friend from school still, a few from uni but the rest is more recent than that.

Still, I’d argue (re the previous post but my reply fit better here) that even the “nostalgia friends” aren’t any different from birth family.

Family just comes with more inherent guilt to uphold the nostalgia lol