I understand how you feel. The first step to reduce the frustration is to try and give it less importance: as you said yourself, it’s not falling in love, it’s just infatuation. Your brain is confusing attractiveness to another person (physical or romantic) for a deep connection that doesn’t come at first sight (despite what movies and tv would make you believe) but develops in time.

You will be attracted to a lot of people in your life (assuming you’re not aromantic or asexual) and, with time, you’ll realize if you went deeper in many of these situation, the attraction would disappear, because the shallow opinion you have of a person you are not dating is very difficult to get right, and usually filtered positively by your monkey brain that just wants to formicate.

Of course trying and deepening these attractions would help you realizing this, which might not be easy if you have difficult approaching other people, but try and reflect on similar situations in the past and think about them cold-hearted: to how many people are you still infatuated? Don’t you see now the “bad things” that you brain was hiding and that don’t make you two really compatible?

Eventually it just becomes a nuisance. I don’t know if you can change it, but you can accept it and it will bother you less if you understand the mechanism behind it.

Maybe you just feel affection-starved and in these situations it’s easy to attach to ideas of relationships rather than real ones. Nothing weird of course, everybody do it is some way or another. It’s a combination of social brain and (according to your comnents) low self-esteem.

Of course these are my 2 cents according to personal experience, a therapist would you help you more with that.

Willy Wonka … Plus the latest theories that try to connect it to Snowpiercer

Wat?

Not saying any of these would cause WW3, but remeber that, depending on who you ask, WW2 started:

• when Germany and Russia invaded Poland in 1939
• when Germany invaded Checkoslovakia in 1938
• when Japan invaded China in 1937

there is no single point of start for a war, just many actions of variable intensity that escalate

Hdd can live a long and happy life, but absolutely don’t trust a single drive ever, independently of how rugged, old or expensive it is.

My main hard drive lasted 5 years with 1 year of power on hours, working fine and suddenly failed. It was a good fail because I was able to get all the data from it, but it took almost one month for how slow it was.

Always assume your data storage is going to die tomorrow and be ready to replace it.

This article seem to point a key difference: old trek = episodic (boring), new trek = serialized (exciting). Yet the two most appreciated series (to my impression) are SNW and LD, both being episodic and highly faithful to the “old” series, while refreshing some themes and presentation, in a positive and modern way.

Discovery is not hated because it’s serialized, or “gritty” (DS9 is gritty, with genocide and war crimes, DIS is cringey, with heavy and dark themes carried out as a 12 years old would). DIS is hated because of poor writing, low stakes, monolithic, brainless and spineless characters and a general lack of respect for established canon that can only be resolved by (SPOILER BELOW)

Yeeting them out of our time and literally erasing them from history. And somehow even in the far future their incredible technology is advanced.

For example?