short term - share how you feel, if you trust your partner enough to do so. read into NVC (non-violence communication) to learn to talk about your feelings, even those of defensiveness. NVC isn’t perfect but will give you a framework.
long term - learn why you feel this way. ADHD might be a catalyser for such reaction (e.g. due to lack of impulse control and RSD) but you’ve sure learned it somewhere e.g. your caregivers reacted defensively when you expressed your needs in the past, etc yadda hadda, gotta dig deeper in your own personal story.
short term - share how you feel, if you trust your partner enough to do so. read into NVC (non-violence communication) to learn to talk about your feelings, even those of defensiveness. NVC isn’t perfect but will give you a framework.
long term - learn why you feel this way. ADHD might be a catalyser for such reaction (e.g. due to lack of impulse control and RSD) but you’ve sure learned it somewhere e.g. your caregivers reacted defensively when you expressed your needs in the past, etc yadda hadda, gotta dig deeper in your own personal story.
good luck and wish you the best ✨