• Nocklusamigos@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    12
    arrow-down
    3
    ·
    4 days ago

    That’s a lie. You never know a result of approaching. She might be not in mood or crazy or friendly. You are not doing bad things by approaching. You are not r aping her. Just approach and if you don’t like her personality back off

    • LouNeko@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      13
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      4 days ago

      You are not doing bad things by approaching.

      I thing you and I have vastly different experiences with rejection.

      • wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        arrow-down
        2
        ·
        3 days ago

        Yeah some women will be kind and say something like “Sorry, I’m not interested, but thank you for asking!” But they’re certainly the exception rather than the rule.

        More often it’ll be like “Ew, I can’t believe you would even ask that! What’s wrong with you?!?” And then she’ll go tell her friends about you and suddenly you end up on an app like tea where the rumor-mill’s game-of-telephone effect morphs it into increasingly grotesque distortions of what actually transpired.

      • ElDuderino@lemmus.org
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        arrow-down
        2
        ·
        3 days ago

        I thing you and I have vastly different experiences with rejection.

        Not really. You really gotta keep trying. It’s a numbers game to an extent. Eventually, you can always find a Mrs. Right now, even if she isn’t your dream girl.

          • ElDuderino@lemmus.org
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            1
            arrow-down
            3
            ·
            3 days ago

            lmao - I’m middle aged and average looking and I haven’t had trouble getting laid since leaving college. It’s not exactly rocket science. Y’all incels need to stop feeling sorry for yourselves and learn the basics of how to convince a lady to hop on your dick.

            • wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              2
              arrow-down
              1
              ·
              3 days ago

              You must have good social skills or something, good for you. But stop assuming everyone else has that.

              Y’all incels need to stop feeling sorry for yourselves and learn the basics of how to convince a lady to hop on your dick.

              Shut the fuck up, dickhead. You say you’re middle-aged, then fucking act like it instead of throwing around childish insults. You act like “convincing a lady to hop on your dick” is the ultimate measure of worth for a man? And you use that as a basis to demean and insult people who say it’s not worth trying anymore? Look yourself in the mirror, because you’re the fucking problem.

              Seriously, you might get laid more often than I do, but I pity you. Enjoy your sex, since that seems to be the height of attainment in your worldview.

              • ElDuderino@lemmus.org
                link
                fedilink
                English
                arrow-up
                1
                arrow-down
                3
                ·
                2 days ago

                Social skills are like any other skill. Sure, some have more aptitude for them naturally, but they can be learned. If you really have such poor social skills, I suggest getting a formal diagnosis and seeking out classes to work on it at your local regional center. You will continue to fail as long as you consider social skills as something that others ‘have’ and you ‘don’t have’ and not as a set of perishable skills.