Just had an argument recently about how it’s inconsiderate to not include what I like in the restaurant we go to if I’m going. He said it’s fine if I don’t like it because he will go to a restaurant he doesn’t like for me, but I always consider what he would like when I pick a place… he refuses to see that his way means we both have a bad experience, even if it’s not at the same time, and my way means we both have a good experience at the same time… I’m so over it
He always likes what I pick and I’m not very picky I just don’t like the Thai places around us, they’re not very authentic and everything is crazy sweet but it’s the only cuisine he will pick, I suspect because he knows I don’t like it. Either way “I suffer for you then you suffer for me” is a transactional relationship, it’s not a healthy loving relationship of mutual joy.
Just had an argument recently about how it’s inconsiderate to not include what I like in the restaurant we go to if I’m going. He said it’s fine if I don’t like it because he will go to a restaurant he doesn’t like for me, but I always consider what he would like when I pick a place… he refuses to see that his way means we both have a bad experience, even if it’s not at the same time, and my way means we both have a good experience at the same time… I’m so over it
Does that mean he doesn’t get to enjoy certain places? How picky are you?
He always likes what I pick and I’m not very picky I just don’t like the Thai places around us, they’re not very authentic and everything is crazy sweet but it’s the only cuisine he will pick, I suspect because he knows I don’t like it. Either way “I suffer for you then you suffer for me” is a transactional relationship, it’s not a healthy loving relationship of mutual joy.