you’re adding way too much into this. who said that someone would guilt you? normally when you make someone sad they don’t say anything about it, they just feel a bit worse and continue with their lives
i’m just explaining to you, there’s no way to rationalize your way out of this. you are in complete control over what you say, unless you have verbal tics. and people will understand if you accidentally say something offensive from a tic. do you not understand this? it’s just about responsibility.
take some responsibility for what you say. that’s all.
not everyone you offend is like that. 90%+ of people you’ll hurt with your words will say nothing to you about it, they"ll just feel like you’re less trustworthy, less respectable, less professional and less considerate. if you want to take all of those disadvantage because… wait, why is it you don’t want to be considerate of the feelings of others, again? you… don’t want to learn new things? okay then.
i’m disabled and i volunteer with disabled people, and we talk about these kind of things quite often - people will talk about how a thoughtless comment on the internet started a spiral of despair. there’s one guy in that group of 30ish who tries to tell people how their words affected him. everyone else, they keep it to themselves, for various reasons - sometimes they’re scared that if they share how they were affected by a comment, the person who wrote it will intentionally try to hurt them more. some people are scared of being seen as a “karen”, some just don’t want to bother people.
we all understand that, most of the time, people aren’t trying to upset us. they’re just being a bit thoughtless. i totally understand that it seems like an arbitrary imposition, but it’s really not that hard to just be a bit more considerate of others.
if you think a word you like to say is more important than being considerate of others, then you keep doing whatever you want. but stop lying to yourself, your actions can hurt people, and blaming people for being hurt by your actions is karen behavior.
you’re adding way too much into this. who said that someone would guilt you? normally when you make someone sad they don’t say anything about it, they just feel a bit worse and continue with their lives
i’m just explaining to you, there’s no way to rationalize your way out of this. you are in complete control over what you say, unless you have verbal tics. and people will understand if you accidentally say something offensive from a tic. do you not understand this? it’s just about responsibility.
take some responsibility for what you say. that’s all.
Yeah, clearly you’ve never seen a Karen.
not everyone you offend is like that. 90%+ of people you’ll hurt with your words will say nothing to you about it, they"ll just feel like you’re less trustworthy, less respectable, less professional and less considerate. if you want to take all of those disadvantage because… wait, why is it you don’t want to be considerate of the feelings of others, again? you… don’t want to learn new things? okay then.
You mean not learn new things like purposefully missing my point? Yeah, big loss. Where are you getting this 90% stat from? Your feelings?
i’m disabled and i volunteer with disabled people, and we talk about these kind of things quite often - people will talk about how a thoughtless comment on the internet started a spiral of despair. there’s one guy in that group of 30ish who tries to tell people how their words affected him. everyone else, they keep it to themselves, for various reasons - sometimes they’re scared that if they share how they were affected by a comment, the person who wrote it will intentionally try to hurt them more. some people are scared of being seen as a “karen”, some just don’t want to bother people.
we all understand that, most of the time, people aren’t trying to upset us. they’re just being a bit thoughtless. i totally understand that it seems like an arbitrary imposition, but it’s really not that hard to just be a bit more considerate of others.
if you think a word you like to say is more important than being considerate of others, then you keep doing whatever you want. but stop lying to yourself, your actions can hurt people, and blaming people for being hurt by your actions is karen behavior.