So, in other words: which of your core beliefs do you think has the highest likelihood of being wrong? And by wrong, I don’t necessarily mean the exact opposite - just that the truth is significantly different from what you currently believe it to be.
I tend to agree with you, but this same line of thought is used by many in the queer community to ‘other’ bisexuals and trans people, for example. Everyone draws the line in a slightly different place. I don’t know what the right answer is. For me I would probably draw the line between ‘sexuality’ and ‘fetish’. Your sexuality should be protected from discrimination and persecution, but in my mind a fetish is more akin to a hobby or sport you enjoy and wouldn’t deserve the same level of protections or attention.
You can easily choose not to walk around in a dog collar on a leash in a rubber suit in public, because you’re just doing it for kicks. You can’t choose not to be queer.