Some of us are weird - for a few examples, on top of being gay, I’ve passed on people that are not furries (it makes dating way easier, even if the pool of potential partners is a fraction of a fraction of what it could be). They might be looking for specific traits (nerdy, slender, glasses - yes please), they might be after someone they think is a good match for a poly relationship. They might have some wild kinks that most don’t share and so they are only looking in niche communities. There’s way, way more possibilities than ‘oh I guess they aren’t interested’. Hell, I’d pass on someone who drives a wasteful vehicle, or who has no interest in my biggest hobbies/topics, or even things that seem petty or insignificant (hairstyle for example - if I immediately want to change something about you, I’d be dating a changed version of you, not the real you). Shit, maybe they are not interested in anyone. Maybe they want someone only as a platonic partner, which again is hard to find so requires certain communities…

And some of us - myself included - hate the song and dance. Just ask them. What’s the worst that can happen, really? A moment of embarrassment? Versus a potential connection? This isn’t some magical fairytale fantasy land, not everyone sees exactly what others think. Remove the dance, remove the uncertainty, and just ask.