I am looking for a few good people to bond with

I am surrounded by family members who keep hurting me. I need to make friends. But either I was not good at it or I avoided it as an urge.

If I had bonds with some normal people, that might give me more strength.

I have some acquaintances but I don’t know how to turn them into bonds because they were like hobby friends and we are not in the same location.

I’d prefer if you are mentally healthy because my family is crazy already

  • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    12 days ago

    So first I changed my wording from healthy to normal to match your words.

    Second you can talk to yourself there is a thing called Internal Family Systems Model (IFS) if you some kind of framework but really it cones down to treating yourself like your own friend. Like as goofy as it sounds take yourself out to dinner. Buy yourself gifts and by the parent comment i didn’t imply you were a child but you sad you don’t have the greatest home life and i made the assumption you might not have had the greatest childhood and if that’s not the case great. But you are never too old to be a role model / parent to yourself. I have talk to people in their 40s that had to become friends with themselves.

    Your writing style had nothing to do with it. English is my first language and I’m very bad at it. So you got me beat.

    Just keep in mind that no external person can help fix something about yourself. You fix yourself and the friends are just a bonus and can offer support but you got to do the work.

    I mean I’m just some guy on the internet take what I say however you want but if you want to talk i would be happy to talk to you.