• Viskio_Neta_Kafo@lemm.ee
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    17 days ago

    I have that issue #2 at least when it comes to going to stores and restaurants. As soon as the staff recognizes me I never want to go again for some reason.

    I have massive social anxiety that’s probably the main part of it.

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        17 days ago

        It’s not that bad for me, but fear of being perceived, fear of being know… It’s all a giant mess

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          17 days ago

          For me at least I think has is something like:

          If I’m off and they don’t know me I’m just an odd customer. But if I’m odd and a regular than I’m an odd person they are thinking about a lot and that makes me nervous like I might mess up.

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            17 days ago

            Honestly I prefer to be perceived as a little weird, because then you can be… A little weird without worrying about it.

            There isn’t really a what to what I’m afraid of. I’m not sure if it’s better or worse this way

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            16 days ago

            Exactly this with me too. If they know me I have to hold myself to different standards and more small talk and stuff like that.

            I have been trying to force myself to go to the same places but I usually fail. The only thing that works for me is going with someone else.