what boys? This ignores the original point. There isnt some big group of friends just waiting for a cry for help… The point is they arent receptive to it and it causes them to withdraw. A dude feeling suicidal? Literally no wants to hear it. Theyll just feel uncomfortable and avoid you.
Sounds like you need new boys. If you tell your friends you’re feeling that low and they withdraw from you because it makes them feel icky, they aren’t your friends. They’re self centered pricks who aren’t worth investing your time or feeling into.
I feel that, man. I’ve tried being open with friends and it just didn’t seem like it mattered much to them. I don’t have many close friends, almost none to be honest. But I have my wife and no matter what I always know she’s there for me, unfailingly.
I will just say, having gone through a real rough year, it’s not always black and white. I be vulnerable with the boys and ask for help, but I need time to process first, and to do it in the way I want and the time I want.
In the meantime, I am often sending memes for that small comfort of friendship while I process.
Or go to therapy, or a 12 step program, or a support group, or a mens shed or call a crisis line.
But ignoring it and pretending it’ll go away on its own letting the pressure build until it explodes is MANLY unlike taking responsibility for your reactions.
What else are you suppose to do?
Ask for help. Be vulnerable with the boys.
what boys? This ignores the original point. There isnt some big group of friends just waiting for a cry for help… The point is they arent receptive to it and it causes them to withdraw. A dude feeling suicidal? Literally no wants to hear it. Theyll just feel uncomfortable and avoid you.
Sounds like you need new boys. If you tell your friends you’re feeling that low and they withdraw from you because it makes them feel icky, they aren’t your friends. They’re self centered pricks who aren’t worth investing your time or feeling into.
If only that worked for me. I’ve been in a depressing place for 5 years, and I both opened up to my homies and brother… Crickets.
My wife keeps me sane and grounded.
I feel that, man. I’ve tried being open with friends and it just didn’t seem like it mattered much to them. I don’t have many close friends, almost none to be honest. But I have my wife and no matter what I always know she’s there for me, unfailingly.
I will just say, having gone through a real rough year, it’s not always black and white. I be vulnerable with the boys and ask for help, but I need time to process first, and to do it in the way I want and the time I want.
In the meantime, I am often sending memes for that small comfort of friendship while I process.
The boys can’t do anything. They’re broke and hopeless too.
Sometimes just talking things out is meaningful on its own.
Cool, cool, cool…
Are there any other options tho?
Lol, no. We’ll all just suffer quietly thanks.
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.
The time is gone, the song is over. Though I’d something more to say.
Yes. That’s the healthy option. …Not gonna do it.
I’ll just post ‘mood’ worthy memes untill the problem is normalized to me long enough to stop making me feel things about it.
Or go to therapy, or a 12 step program, or a support group, or a mens shed or call a crisis line.
But ignoring it and pretending it’ll go away on its own letting the pressure build until it explodes is MANLY unlike taking responsibility for your reactions.
The inner machinations of my mind are an enigma…
Wallow in self pity?
I’m good with sending memes.