This one lady is considered very kind. She is to most people, that’s why they consider her this way. The lady’s friend says they’re the problem if the lady is mean to them.

I’ve been treated very badly for having learning disabilities and attention problems. Rather than talk to me and try to help me, this lady tried to beat me up, wants to hurt me, and is now ignoring me because she said she hates me and blocked me. I’m happy without her, though.

Is it possible that she can act like this and still be a good and kind person despite hating people with problems and being a bit homophobic?

      • Windex007@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        2 days ago

        That’s a terrible thing to say to anyone, for any reason. I’m sorry that happened to you.

        Did they say that as soon as you arrived? Or had you been talking before that?

        Also, what is your relationship to this person?

      • Windex007@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        2 days ago

        If this lady was walking her dog, spotted OP down the street, said “I think they have a disability” and then jogged down the street to sucker punch them, then I actually doubt OPs assertion that people generally think this lady is a good person.

        OP has correctly concluded that things aren’t adding up here. I’m taking OP at their word that they want to understand. It might be that their assessment that others see this lady as good isn’t correct. It might also be that their assessment that the reason for the “trying to beat up” wasn’t because of their disability.

        I’ve known some high-functioning autistic people who’ve gotten physically struck from saying extremely inappropriate things (from the perspective of the listener) after missing 100 social cues that people are incredibly offended. It’s unjustifiable, but I’d have been a shitty friend if I didn’t help them understand the social cues and why extremely accurate assessments should not always be vocalized… Or at least to understand how people are likely to react so they can make informed decisions.

        No idea if this is OPs sitch, but it sounds like they’re trying to navigate a scenario they don’t understand, and I know I have more to offer than affirmations if they want that.