i just broke up with my ex and he used to do that a lot while we dated so i was wondering how common that was? i mean trying to start the conversation or saying something important, not just saying “bye” or something, and I don’t mind my friends leaving me on read I think but not my partner, idk why.
Heavily context dependent, I’d say. In a vacuum, it’s not that unusual. The entire purpose of text is that you don’t have to respond immediately. If it happens constantly, then maybe it would have been worth figuring out why that keeps happening. Maybe he dislikes you, or maybe he’s just busy.
It seems you already understand that, though. So perhaps the more informative question is why you feel the way that you feel towards your ex. Frankly, it’s probably some level of infatuation (or as I call it, puppy love). It’s not intrinsically bad, but it does tend to drive people to have unrealistic expectations for their partners, which can drive conflict once those expectations become established
thank you!! we broke up for other reasons, thankfully