I thought this article was interesting, in that I am immediately suspicious of the motives of some of people quoted. The conclusion runs counter to what I want to be true, and I’m curious what other people make of it.
Also men: Do you actually feel attacked? I’m not sure I’ve ever seen someone criticised for like being strong and capable, or a good carpenter, or a protective dad or whatever. Is this a real thing? or just something that is used as cover like the traditional values vs violent misogyny terminology.
P.S. Thinking there are hordes of ravenous cancellers waiting in the wings is extremely funny to me. Not exactly beating the allegations that listening to Jo Rogan damages your perception of reality.
When I see people trying to define positive masculinity, they list traits that are actually good traits I look for in female partners, or male friends. This leads me to believe that the complaints about emasculation are confused ones. I know my mostly absent father complained to my mum about emasculation once. Well, step up and be strong and responsible like most single mothers have to do. Too many guys expect to be respected just for being male. Prove it. Be a good person, male or female.
This is what confuses me. I am mostly a lesbian but have dated men a few times. I never resented their traits I would consider manly.
My sisters are married to men and they seem to enjoy the fact that they’re men. They expect their partner to be sensitive, tactful, and mature but that is a basic expectation of every adult and not hard to meet.
My dad is a man, he’s extremely handy and always willing to show us the ropes of some task or help out with his knowledge. That seems like masculinity to me.
I don’t understand what men feel like they’re not allowed to do that is “being a man”. I get some stuff like roided up beauty standards are ridiculous but every human alive deals with impossible celebrity beauty.