I couldn’t believe my eyes seeing this advice to teach young boys to hit girls so as to restore the boys’ self esteem and pride.

This is the kind of toxic belief that shouldn’t be allowed to proliferate here and yet is embraced with open arms by other users.

That boys can only regain their pride and self esteem by hitting girls leads directly to more violence against women and girls.

  • velma@sh.itjust.worksOP
    99·
    3 days ago

    Oh only 1 threat of rape less than a month ago. Definitely not an example of misogyny on this site, no way /s

    It’s been quiet recently because ZDL and myself have shamed these men into shutting the fuck up in a women’s only community.

    It takes constant vigilance and a lot of work from our moderators to keep men who insist on their presence in a women’s only community away from us.

    • zoloftt@lemmy.world
      61·
      3 days ago

      Peace, if I’m coming off as combative, I apologize. I’m trying to message in the most neutral way I can. I know being a mod sucks, and you get to see the worst in the community. You save others from having to experience that same level of vitriol.

      Like I said. Zero would be nice. I have high hopes that we can achieve that.

      It’s still SOOOO much better than other platforms. It’s one of the primary reasons I only use Lemmy.

      • velma@sh.itjust.worksOP
        124·
        3 days ago

        It’s still SOOOO much better than other platforms. It’s one of the primary reasons I only use Lemmy.

        That hasn’t been my experience here.

        There have been multiple conversations openly talking about how “willing and consensual” 14 year old girls are that were never moderated like they would have been on Reddit for example.

        There is a problem with sexism here because misogyny is on the rise everywhere. And I’m going to continue to call it out because it is real, it does exist here, and no amount of “Oh I dunno, I don’t see it…” changes what I experience directly.

        I’m definitely a little wound up about this subject this morning (and the midterms aren’t helping atm), so I do apologize for how blunt I’m being.

        • zoloftt@lemmy.world
          41·
          3 days ago

          Totally. I’m not discounting that it exists. In my original comment I just wanted to know what comms this was happening in, and just like you gave an anecdote about your experience, I gave my anecdote.

          I’ve had so much worse of an experience on Reddit, but I had been on Reddit since ~2010.

          I promise that I ALWAYS call out misogynistic posts/comments that I find. Need to make an effort to change the culture 1 step at a time.

          • velma@sh.itjust.worksOP
            71·
            3 days ago

            I promise that I ALWAYS call out misogynistic posts/comments that I find. Need to make an effort to change the culture 1 step at a time.

            <3