I couldn’t believe my eyes seeing this advice to teach young boys to hit girls so as to restore the boys’ self esteem and pride.
This is the kind of toxic belief that shouldn’t be allowed to proliferate here and yet is embraced with open arms by other users.
That boys can only regain their pride and self esteem by hitting girls leads directly to more violence against women and girls.
Is it sexist to suggest the answer should be different depending on the gender of the people involved?
I can see trying to emphasize de escalation and self defense that isn’t just hitting back harder, but I don’t think the gender of the children involved should change the answer.
My statement about teaching boys doesn’t mean girls should be taught to meet violence with violence in their stead. They’re not mutually exclusive statements.
Just referring to both sides, if the bully is a boy or a girl, the response should be similar.
Certainly agree that the advice emphasizes the value of violence rather than accepting it as a last resort and measured response, but I’m not so sure it is a sexist sentiment, as could easily see that comment going the same way if it were two boys or two girls or the genders reversed.
It’s the language he chose like “it’s not like a grown man hitting a woman”