It helped explain some things about my wife - has helped us both. The ADHD diagnosis was much more helpful. I’d like to know either way, but it’s not the end of the world either way :)
Honestly, I’m not overly worried about it. If I do and got a diagnosis, it might help bring a little more understanding, but the ADHD explains most of my problems (and strengths). lol. So I’ll probably continue to waffle a bit.
But knowing my wife has it for sure helps. We’ve definitely made some adjustments that just make sense now.
My dad almost certainly has ADHD but never got a diagnosis. In his case, it’s more like my possible autism - if he does have ADHD which we’re all (including him) pretty convinced, he managed to mask / cope well enough throughout his life - a diagnosis seems like a “whatever why bother”.
Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it’s ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)
Speaking of which, your comment made me smile. No matter the exact mix of stuff, it does seems like a lot of us find each other, one way or another. lol. That’s why my wife and I married - half a decade before our diagnosis - because we were the only people laughing at each others’ jokes. lol
Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it’s ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)
Something I love about this community is that we can be ourselves. I think people here are understanding that what you are describing is one way ADHD/autistic people express empathy and connect with each other. No need to qualify it!
Whether or not you are autistic only matters if it matters to you, comrade. You can lay it to rest if you want to.
It helped explain some things about my wife - has helped us both. The ADHD diagnosis was much more helpful. I’d like to know either way, but it’s not the end of the world either way :)
My spouse and I both sought formal diagnosis last year. I had been on ADHD meds for two years by then and he has not been on any.
I went for ADHD and Autism and he did ADHD only. One year later he’s like, um, I guess I’m autistic too eh?
Sharing in case it makes any thing feel more ‘normal’.
Honestly, I’m not overly worried about it. If I do and got a diagnosis, it might help bring a little more understanding, but the ADHD explains most of my problems (and strengths). lol. So I’ll probably continue to waffle a bit.
But knowing my wife has it for sure helps. We’ve definitely made some adjustments that just make sense now.
My dad almost certainly has ADHD but never got a diagnosis. In his case, it’s more like my possible autism - if he does have ADHD which we’re all (including him) pretty convinced, he managed to mask / cope well enough throughout his life - a diagnosis seems like a “whatever why bother”.
Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it’s ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)
Speaking of which, your comment made me smile. No matter the exact mix of stuff, it does seems like a lot of us find each other, one way or another. lol. That’s why my wife and I married - half a decade before our diagnosis - because we were the only people laughing at each others’ jokes. lol
Something I love about this community is that we can be ourselves. I think people here are understanding that what you are describing is one way ADHD/autistic people express empathy and connect with each other. No need to qualify it!
Hah, well, you know how it is - masking and apologizing becomes instinct. Thank you for the lovely reminder <3