Its this, really. Well put. Unfortunately we still live in a world where having a penis means you’re in charge, and being penetrated means you’re inferior. The lack of a penis or being fucked defaults, to a lot of people, to being weak and submissive. It doesn’t help that so many have the - wrong - idea that top = dom and bottom = sub.

I’ve talked to folks a few times about this, and how the notion of a bottom being the dominant partner and getting penetrated, would blow so many guys’ minds, if they can even understand the scenario to begin with.

I like to believe it is, I’d like to get crossposts on my communities (if they adhere to the guidelines, of course) and try to put an effort into crossposting for relevant communities that I know. I don’t think its spam as long as you’re not, like, cross posting a single image into 5+ communities every time.

Not everyone is constantly browsing Local, and even if they do, you might lose something here and there with the sheer volume of contributions. Cross posting to specific communities will highlight it to the people who are subscribed, and also help the administrators.

If you use the Lemmy Explorer, you can set to look for Only NSFW Communities

https://lemmyverse.net/communities?nsfw=true

I’m not against SFW BL - and honestly I’ve thought about making SFW Communities in this Instance before - but AFAIK all LemmyNSFW posts are tagged with NSFW by default, and there’s other, safer Yaoi/BL communities that would be more populated, and cater to those interests.

Not telling you not to, you could just crosspost, of course, just that you’ll probably find more people willing to comment/share in those.

Thanks for the recommendation and the suggestion.

Its not me.