I also have bipolar II / autism. It can definitely be a grind. I’m v lucky that I am self employed in a creative field, where my oddness is valued.

The most difficult aspect of life for us is, imo, dating. Especially with the rise of ‘the ick’ phenomenon. Neurotypicsl people usually make a v quick internal judgement that we’re ‘weird’ or ‘unsuitable for friendship’ (very illuminating and sad study on this I read recently).

During the pandemic, I got heavily into stoic philosophy, along with some Buddhist learnings. Not mastered either but they’ve been a bigger help than medication I take.

Check out an audio book: ‘Derren Brown - Happy’. It will give you a bunch of very effective tools on how to manage external stressors. If you never used audible, they usually have a ‘one month free trial, keep one audiobook’ deal. Get the above book then cancel 😁

Crazy that I’ve been downvoted for offering factual help, while the comment which is provably incorrect is up voted

Yeah. People can avoid all this nonsense by installing one simple app… Duck duck go browser.

You don’t have to use the browser. It just sits in the background quietly blocking tracking requests from other apps.

It’s absolutely horrifying on first use to see how egregious tracking is.

I’m using Sync to write this comment :)

• If I see a freezer / fridge door open in a supermarket, I close it. Not for the supermarket, but for the planet

• as someone who stacked shelves as a teen, if I take an item and it leaves a gap, I pull the next one forward so the employee doesn’t have to keep fussing over the manager’s demand for it to be lined up

• my dad lives in a bungalow, on a small cul de sac of other bungalows. Sheltered housing for old folks. Litter often gets blown in and collects, I’ll pick it up every couple of weeks. Also cleared their paths / sprinkled salt when It snowed

• when old people are in the way, I don’t crowd up behind them. I’ll take a few steps back and wait so they don’t feel pressured

• if there’s an item in the road that could damage someone’s car, I’ll wait until it’s safe then remove the item

• if I see someone was down voted just for sharing their opinion (assumedly because the down voter is too childish to withstand an opposing opinion), I make sure to up vote it in an attempt to restore balance. Even if I don’t agree with said opinion (obviously this doesn’t apply to hateful rhetoric etc)

Prob a ton of other little things I can’t remember. Thanks for making this post!

Hey, thank you so much for listening :) sorry I’m only just replying, think I need to update my mobile lemmy client as I didn’t see any messages until logging in on PC just now. Also really helpful to know that it’s hard to find, I love writing music but I’m pretty awful at the promotional & marketing side.

Ahhh very sweet! Thanks for sharing this pic. It’s always a proud moment when something so much smaller trusts you like this.

My dad has a pair of magpies that visit his garden everyday. Not sure how long I’ll be living with him (final stages of buying a house), I left them some nuts last time I was there but will definitely make it a regular habit, thanks for the tip :)

I have a few dreams in life. Some, I have realised. Others, I have not.

Yet to befriend a crow or magpie, not really into birds but I love corvids. There’s just something about them; they radiate intelligence and curiosity. I’m guessing they have good reason to be skittish, but I just want to provide them treats and make friends!

My toes are unstubbable

You shouldn’t have to apologise for your behaviour as a child. You were a child, she was a parent. If anything your childhood behaviour is to some extent HER responsibility.

From what you’ve said, it sounds as if you’re bending over backwards trying to repair your relationship while your mum is being stubborn & petty. If it were me, I’d make a final attempt to reach out and explicitly say that I am desperately trying to mend our relationship, but it seems as if she isn’t interested in doing that… and if that’s the case, can she just be upfront about it so you can both move on.