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  • chunk6235@piefed.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Snoring rule
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    4 days ago

    I think he got a sleep study? He got a machine to put onto himself at night to monitor one night of his sleep. We returned the machine with the recorded data, but we never heard back from the doctor. I’m gonna get him to go again, cause it’s honestly terrible, on top of that he only sleeps like 6 hours and he doesn’t take it seriously at all.

    I unfortunately see myself in this, since I only recently did the ‘go back to your PCP to follow up on the sleep study’ part after a year of not hearing anything back. I really wish I had done so sooner.

    Absolutely encourage him to follow up with the doctor, and if at all possible, REREAD the sleep study results and actually understand what it says (research if you have to!). I was regularly getting down below 87% SpO2 (you’re not supposed to go below 93%…) and it made me feel like microwaved dogshit. I got a CPAP and it has done wonders for my sleep. I’m actually trying to get my wife to go in for one as well, but it will be interesting to see how we can get the hosing to her spot in the middle…




  • Yeah, I have some compassion for kids who are on that path, because I was there when I was a kid, though not as bad as your friend. Thankfully, I had some friends who cared enough to pull me aside and tell me how I was being a fuck head and to be better.

    A lot of people have shitty parents who pass on their toxicity to their kids, who have to actively repair the damage done to them before they knew how bad that behavior was. I saw a comment from @wopalopa@lemmy.world the other day that really stuck with me, because it really resonated with my experience:

    its not your fault for turning that way. but its your fault for keeping that way.



  • I’m other words, when has saying, “be better” ever persuaded anyone?

    When the other person respects your opinion of them.

    I’ve had a couple instances in my life where a friend has pulled me aside, explained how I’m being an asshole and told me to be better. Honestly, that has done more to unfuck the person I am than just about anything I can think of. Because I actually care what those close to me think, and don’t want to push them away with my character flaws. Same reason I go to therapy, my therapist just knows how to word it better.


  • chunk6235@piefed.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•equality rule
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    10 days ago

    Strong/weak people of any gender shouldn’t hit other people. But if you choose to start a fight, don’t be surprised when the other person decides to play along.

    “Start shit, get hit” is a phrase to live by, because you can’t assume someone is going to take your abuse without giving a little back.


  • chunk6235@piefed.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•equality rule
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    10 days ago

    I had a FWB years ago who would do that up until the day where I wasn’t able to stop the response reflex and punched her right in the tit. Felt kinda bad since it wasn’t exactly consensual, but we did worse than that regularly, so it wasn’t a big deal.

    She’d still do it periodically cuz she liked getting punched in the tit, but that was at least negotiated 🤣