Same. It doesn’t hurt that my cat’s meow is extremely similar and he’s just as chatty.

you could have done more

Aaaaaagh!!! Leave me alone! I got so much done yesterday and all I get is guilt thst I went to bed before I was done?!

Is that now how friendships are made?

This explains why I have no female friends.

I think the people of blahaj are developing the power of friendship.

I suggest we let them cook and only ask them to weaponize it when we need it most.

I’ve never seen such a one-sided poll. I’m very impressed.

Protip: hang a generous (to hide the chest) robe somewhere easy to access. Slippers beneath.

I ate the onion.

I came back to say that since I made that post, I’ve been mentally designing my wrestling costume ever since.

Actually, I’ve been working out. If I get strong enough, I’ll do this to all my trans brothers’ dad’s for them.

I’m a ciswoman, but I feel like if I reached that point I’d offer to wrestle my Dad to prove my dominance.

“This is deadname, my daughter.”

“Forgive him. He only says that because he’s too chicken to fight me.”

The well wishes will continue until the situation improves!

But again. My inbox is always open if that might help.

Also I am from the American South and I have met people named Lemmy in my life. (I’m older and they were older than me but still.) The one that sticks out in my memory had no teeth from obvious meth use, skin more leathered by cigarette smoke and alcohol than the sun, and tended to wear a leather vest with no shirt.

If you’re imagining someone that was not cool, you would be correct.

So again, definitely not helping. Made me take a couple extra months after hearing about it before even researching it, because “oh, ew, it’s called Lemmy?”

I always forget that not everybody had a Buddhist hippie uncle and aunt doing lessons with them on the weekend.

My cousins and I will randomly say, “What is (Uncle’s) number one rule?”

And everyone present will chant a phrase thst would dox me, that boils down to “don’t help the police!”

We can all play a part. Mutual aid means using whatever you bring to the table. If you can, think of it like a video game or a tabletop game. I look like I do and made a lifelong practice of learning how to talk to people. Now I have a high diplomacy check (and sense motive.) My boyfriend spent most of his life in the military, and his capacity for violence makes him the barbarian. Together, we are prepared to help in many, many more ways than either of us could ever do alone.

And the bigger your circle, the more situations you’re prepared for! If you haven’t yet, take an honest assessment of your skills. Figure out how you can most help others. You don’t have to be an S rank talker or violencer, you can be bad at the skill you pick! The important thing is to pick the skill, *then work on it. *

Even if you don’t have a circle, if you’re all alone, you can be preparing yourself to help others who need it. You are valued. You are loved, even if you don’t know it, even if it’s easy to feel like you’re not. And when you eventually find your tribe, or when your tribe is being attacked, having skills to help others and yourself is the best thing you can do.

I have to admit, the name did directly lead to me taking longer to adopt it.

Dead musicians aside, it’s not a cool name. It’s not a cute-in-a-quirky-way name, and most egregiously, it’s an actual name. For a person.

I think that the fediverse is held back by its name, but since I don’t have a solution, I usually never mention it. I try not to observe problems unless I have some solution, no matter how weak or terrible.

Oh my gosh, how nothing changed when all those people were getting murdered through the site? So scary!

I am so so sorry I’m not able to have an opinion on this. If it’s not too much trouble (and I understand if it is) could you edit this for readability? I clicked through to your link and I reread the first paragraph like five times and it is not sticking.

Would you mind maybe copy-pasting it here (I have readability set up for Lemmy but not for those exterbal sites)? Or giving a TL;DR? I know my asking is an imposition so just ignore me if any of that’s too much.

E: I’ll check again later. I’m even on my medicine and I am struggling. Might just need to sit this one out.

Aye, there ya go.

This is less for the hardware portion and more for the human element;

Figure out what you want your instance to be about and be very clear about it. Maybe write up your rules and have someone friendly with experience go over it with a rules-lawyer vibe, because a lot of the unfun parts of running anything revolve around a tiny segment of the population who will test you.

I have a lot of experience with this if you need assistance, and I know there are others here who do as well.

Remember, being clear about what you stand for and what you want your instance to stand for isn’t just a benefit for you, it also helps let users know whether they agree with you or not, as there’s always another server they can join or post on if they prefer.

ETA; if you’re open to it, I also have a lot of friends who love going over rules with a fine-tooth comb and enjoy helping people, so I could share it with them, too. You can also post openly on Lemmy somewhere and invite discussion. Remember, what you want most is to create the specific space you want. The more specific, the better. And that excluding people isn’t always bad! Safe spaces are necessary.

Not to get all serious… I haven’t talked to you for a couple of months, but every time I see your name, I do a little wish for positive things for you, friend. I hope you’re taking care of yourself.

Oh my God, I didn’t see this post until literally now and it looks like I was replying to you directly!!