Hmm. Strap implies that my partner doesn’t have a penis. If that means my partner is a woman…no I wouldn’t, sorry.
However! If my partner was a pre/no-OP trans man…fuck yes I’m sucking the strap :3
Trans men are men. Trans women are women. Enbies are valid.
I’ve know that some people consider “dude” genderneutral, but this is the first I’ve heard this about “buddy”…
To me buddy and dude are gender neutral. Dude’s been like that since at least the mid-90’s. Bro is pretty much there too nowadays, especially with American younger Gen-Z. Ultimately it is up to the recipient. If they say, don’t call me X, I don’t use X. No debate.