I know its a hard mentality to accept but I agree with these other people. You need to know if they actually want it. You need to really know why they do it to begin with. Someone who always cooks for other might just hate everyone else’s cooking. Someone who plans things might hate surprises. Some people who help others domitmto prove to everyone they dont need help themselves.
You could seriously piss someone off by following this meme.
And you’ve completely ignored the conversation in here around tailoring the care back to the person who needs it. It’s good to care about the people who are caring for you and meeting them where they’re at or giving them back what they need.
Taking a meme that is simply a reminder to care about the people in your life that care for others and getting fucking pissy about it is the most terminally online thing I’ve seen this week, goddamn.
The top comments section in here is so weird. It’s like those most offended by this light hearted meme have an emotional baggage of sorts that they can’t not apply and take this meme super seriously.
(Also who’s taking this as life advice and applying zero context to it to their loved ones?)
As a planner: it’s also great to have friends who also plan. I share a rotation of holiday parties with a few friends who enjoy hosting. And is it totally random who gets Halloween? Yeah, that’s fine, sometimes life is rolling with the punches. Sometimes it’s fun to not play host and sometimes it’s okay to give someone else the joy of hosting or planning.
And as a friend of another planner/gift giver, of whom I know loves any surprise gift, I occasionally surprise her with small, thoughtful gifts and it really makes her day.
Iono where everyone else’s heads are or what their damage is but lol. I get you.
Its good to treat people well and how you want to be treated. Just make sure its wanted on their end.
If people don’t want things in return and the people in their life recognize that and honor that desire, then they are following the meme.
It’s about tuning in to the people in your life and making sure you’re caring for people who care for others. If they prefer to be ignored, then that is still caring for them by ignoring them.
I know its a hard mentality to accept but I agree with these other people. You need to know if they actually want it. You need to really know why they do it to begin with. Someone who always cooks for other might just hate everyone else’s cooking. Someone who plans things might hate surprises. Some people who help others domitmto prove to everyone they dont need help themselves.
You could seriously piss someone off by following this meme.
And you’ve completely ignored the conversation in here around tailoring the care back to the person who needs it. It’s good to care about the people who are caring for you and meeting them where they’re at or giving them back what they need.
Taking a meme that is simply a reminder to care about the people in your life that care for others and getting fucking pissy about it is the most terminally online thing I’ve seen this week, goddamn.
The top comments section in here is so weird. It’s like those most offended by this light hearted meme have an emotional baggage of sorts that they can’t not apply and take this meme super seriously.
(Also who’s taking this as life advice and applying zero context to it to their loved ones?)
As a planner: it’s also great to have friends who also plan. I share a rotation of holiday parties with a few friends who enjoy hosting. And is it totally random who gets Halloween? Yeah, that’s fine, sometimes life is rolling with the punches. Sometimes it’s fun to not play host and sometimes it’s okay to give someone else the joy of hosting or planning.
And as a friend of another planner/gift giver, of whom I know loves any surprise gift, I occasionally surprise her with small, thoughtful gifts and it really makes her day.
Iono where everyone else’s heads are or what their damage is but lol. I get you.
You seem to be getting as equally pissed over the other side of the same non issue.
Its good to treat people well and how you want to be treated. Just make sure its wanted on their end.
If people don’t want things in return and the people in their life recognize that and honor that desire, then they are following the meme.
It’s about tuning in to the people in your life and making sure you’re caring for people who care for others. If they prefer to be ignored, then that is still caring for them by ignoring them.