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big yes from me
I learned that being chatty and introverted are not mutually exclusive long before I got my diagnoses. Just because I can, and will, tell my server they got my order wrong when it’s wrong doesn’t mean I am an extrovert. It means I am high and not feeling socially anxious and I really want my burger the way I asked.
I used to call myself an introvert with extrovert tendacies and so ya, I’m in this meme lol.
Me.
I was like this. I was diagnosed at 28 years old, and now I’m 39. The last remnants of my extroverted tendencies are dying, though. I recently had two friends ghost me because of trauma influenced behavior that I was experiencing. People pretend they’re tolerant of autism riiiiiiiight up until something genuinely difficult happens. Then you get to see how your “friendship” was based on a masked version of you and therefore completely fake.
Someone I thought I had a 20 year “friendship” with ghosted me with zero explanation after I moved 1600 miles across the country to live closer to. My extraverted tendencies cause more harm than the loneliness that comes with introversion. It’s just not worth it.
…shut up. -.-
Me: “That’s not ADHD, that’s just being human!”
Her: “No, no, really, not.”
Me: “What are you saying? I don’t have ADHD.”
Her: “You sure?”
Me: “Of course I’m sure.”
Me: Joins lemmy.
Lemmy: Lots of ADHD memes.
Me: “Huh.”And yes, I thought I was the only really outgoing shy person I knew of, and I couldn’t ever make sense of it.
Huh, funnily enough I thought this was about the opposite. I barely have a social battery, so I don’t meet up with people much, and only for a limited time. But when I do, I’m the life of the party.
It probably is. Don’t let my experience invalidate yours even a tiny little bit.
I think both of our experiences are perfectly valid
Kind of, I was always just introverted and finding out I had autism and unlearning the coping mechanisms I made from not knowing wtf was going on made me able to be more extraverted then before, at least briefly.
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This is probably because introvert and extrovert are just made up and there’s no evidence anyone falls neatly into either.
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I avoid people at all cost, and for the special few that make it into my life, I just won’t shut the fuck up 😭
It’s a problem, every night my partner has to manage my chattiness, if allowed I will just pillow-talk until 2am.
but yeah, I’m not autistic.
That’s not autism. That’s social anxiety.
Why not both!
What is an extroverted introvert? As a youth I was introverted and its still my nature but I found I liked drama and being in a chorus and debate type things as I got older but Im still more likely and more than happy to quietly sit and read or mess with a device or be with my thoughts in a group setting and ill at ease meeting people.
What is an extroverted introvert?
It is a made up meme to explain the fact that almost no one is really extroverted or introverted. meyers-briggs, which is unscientific and was just made up by some dumbass who said “I think humans be like this”, says all people are either extroverts or introverts. But in reality, one’s level of extroversion or introversion depends heavily on environmental factors such as overall energy level or level of comfort with a particular person/group. To the extent that extroversion is a measurable, stable personality trait at all, when it is measured it fits a bell curve across the population - ie, the vast majority of people land smack dab in the middle of extroverted/introverted.
So if you say you are an extroverted introvert, you’re just saying you’re a normal fucking person. It comes from people accepting Meyers-Briggs as hard fact (it isn’t), and then trying to fit this square peg into the round hole of their actual lived experience.
I was diagnosed at 56 with ADHD and Autism. So many fuck ups of mine make sense now.
I am in this, but I got tested and I’m “normal” even though in my 20s I’m pretty sure I would have been in the very high ranges.
I’d still say I have an ADHD brain with OCD tendencies, but I’ve managed to moderate both through a decade of exercise, caffeine, and sugar.
(Anecdotal, N=1) I think once your brain realizes in some sense that it can be productive despite its neuroses, the extremes peter out once the stress of your failures no longer hang over you.
These days I think of myself as extrovert but most people think the opposite. Sometimes I wonder if anybody even is absolutely one or the other at all times and circumstances.
My cousin is certified extrovert. She basically always „needs“ someone to talk to on family gatherings. I think she’s fine being alone, but if there’s a person she will talk to them.
If there’s someone telling a story and she’s not too invested she will open a parallel conversation.
