• angrystego@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Is it blasting though when she then turns it against herself? She’s actually asking what it is that makes her need outside validation to feel good.

  • Railcar8095@lemm.ee
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    2 days ago

    It’s funny. I got a promotion a bit ago and I announced happily to my family that my career progression has ended for good.

    I don’t want to grow in responsibility, in don’t want to work extra hours, I don’t want to study for work, I don’t want to “network”.

    If yearly rises somewhat follow the cost of living (relatively common in my workplace), I don’t even want to job hop.

    I want to cruise at work and live my life.

    Some still don’t understand because “line go up” mentality.

  • jackeryjoo@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Holy shit. That dude needs to run as fast as he can away from that and towards a puppy that will help him delete facebook and hit the gym.

    • Reddfugee42@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 days ago

      Exactly. His natural predisposition is to be happy and hers is to be miserable. Sadly, her miserable is probably stomping out his happy

  • CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    Could you go a year without a single new certification, interview, award, promotion, and be OK with yourself for it?

    No but I have ADHD and collect knowledge like trading cards in an attempt to appease the screaming boredom. Wonder what got her all twisted up?

  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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    2 days ago

    If I ever find something that pays enough to do what I want and offers a nice work life balance my ladder climbing will stop there. I have no career goals beyond that. I want to pursue my personal interests and help others learn. That’s it. Unfortunately I can’t figure out how to monetize my personal interests in a way that won’t make me hate my life.

      • DontMakeMoreBabies@lemm.ee
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        2 days ago

        I am legitimately jealous of people who manage to work a job doing something they actually like. They seem so much better off? My dad is one of those - he’ll retire and come back for fun.

        I’m finally in a position that I can say “I don’t hate,” pays well, and I get a pension but holy shit I still occasionally get the “Monday blues.”

        The second that I can retire, I’m fucking OUT.

  • sleepmode@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Dated someone like this. She needed constant external validation. Had self-esteem issues. Narcissistic. Never satisfied. Extreme anxiety. Separation anxiety. Hot and cold all the time. Always hopping from new infatuation to the next.

    I was already deep in corporate and she couldn’t understand why I was content when I found something stable. We split when I got tired of the constant cheating and dumped her. Everything was a pissing contest and she always had to win. She was furious I dumped her first, even.

    She’s successful now but still never content. Found out she was bipolar which explains so much from the past.

    • P1k1e@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      Have a friend same kinda deal. Not the cheating thing but is poly so it’s a vibe. Grew up poor, got a degree decent job decent pay. The MOMENT she got stable she wanted to go back to school for a doctorate. Student loans, stressing herself out to high hell. Current events got her having mega breakdowns cuz her field is affected. Broke again. The cycle continues

      Edit: also bipolar…clearly

  • Constant Pain@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    This has been a block for me in dating apps. They look down on you for saying you’re perfectly fine where you are right now. I’m over 40 and have a nice job, there’s no need for me to continue to run after “something better”. But other people see you like you’re accommodated or lazy. It’s bonkers.

    The funny thing is, usually, they are in a lot worse place than me, financially.

  • rainrain@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 days ago

    She’s an LLM optimized for doing “career goals”.

    Maybe that’s the unavoidable final state of our society. A million goalbots, dancing together, forever.