No.

reddiquette was always a joke, and it only kind of made sense when reddit was a homogeneous userbase of young nerds who were actually idealistic. once reddit became a target for interest groups, marketers, and etc redditique was just virtue signalling/plausible deniability.

any moral code falls apart as soon you have participants who are willing to exploit it rather than honor it.

the base code of redditiquttee was ‘remember the human’, well you can’t exactly do that if your belief-set active denies the humanity of other people, which is how most average folks operate, and typically folks are only capable of abstract respect for other people who share their pre-existing biases and beliefs, which is precisely why reddit worked well when it was a bunch of 20/30 something college-educated male techie libertarians, but once it diversified that quickly fell apart. in a diverse environment people won’t disagree with your ideas, they will disagree with your existence.

like colleges have honor codes, and those work mostly because the population of a college is self-selected and mostly demographically homogeneous, but if you are visibly distinct from other students at the college, the honor code won’t apply to you.

Not being able to afford first class plane tickets isn’t suffering.

But lots of folks seem to think it is.

Just like the weirdos here who think the world is abusing them because the price of RAM went up and and their $3000 Gaming PC is now $5000.

This idea that everyone is ‘suffering’ is so utterly absurd and akin to hippies thinking we are all ‘unenlightened’ because we’re not constantly tripping balls on lsd.

Have you ever been hungry? slept in the freezing cold? lived without medical or dental care? That is legitimate struggle and suffering. Not being a whiny bitch about how you’re not rich enough to afford luxuries that could feed people for years…

truth is maybe if folks did legit suffer they’d have more perspective on life. Daddy not buying you a Porsche for your birthday isn’t suffering, Daddy beating you on your birthday for wanting a birthday cake is. And sadly way too many people can’t seem to understand the difference anymore.

i want something that was reddit circa 2007-2013.

lots of nerdy cool stuff without the politics.

lemmy is too politics and not enough nerdy stuff.

past couple of years most of my ability to socialize has collapsed because I can’t relate to other folks anymore.

mostly because they are miserable and I am not. and they think I’m miserable because I’m not agonizing about the things they agonize about endlessly, so we are just never going to find common ground. and i come across like a massive arrogant douchebag because I’m doing well where they are struggling. and what alienates me more is… the are not legitimately struggling in any way… but they have convinced themselves nobody has it worse than them… it’s just insufferable IMO. and often they are actually doing way better than I am… but think they are doing worse…

i also lost like a dozen friends since the end of covid, because they went insane, but they are more ‘normal’ than I am because well, a lot of people went insane from covid and I legit loved it and came out way better off.

i also can’t relate to gen z and how totally miserable they are. even my own nephews/nieces all they want to do is agonize about how awful their life is and will be… despite objectively them being incredibly well off…

and i see a lot of this attitude all over the internet endlessly, which also sucks.

and it’s entirely possible you would have washed out as a traders person and never earned that.

very few people make bank in the trades, most make a OK living, but trades have massive drawbacks too.

this whole ‘we need people in the trades, it pays so well’ is a lot of bullshit, just like ‘everyone has to learn to code’

all it mean is they want more competition in the field to drive wages down.

only if you want to be a CEO in a major corporation. plenty of successful people who aren’t sociopaths, but they typically aren’t ceo/business/sales types.

my father said you are gay if you don’t like sports and you read books.

yeah i used social media when it was a IRL friend circle, but that’s not how any of those platforms work anymore, they are all about selling you product via viral ads.

Yeah. To me social media is specifically visual platforms where you are selling a personality.

but let’s not mistake ourselves, the majority of internet use is social media use and has been for a decade. and it’s predominantly accessed via mobile devices, not computers.

validation and love are not the same things, but commonly mistaken especially in the attention economy where people are seeking validation above all else.

a lot of folks are so obsessed with external validation they are not capable of love anyway.

to make something of yourself and have meaning and purpose in life.

ambition doesn’t necessarily have to be financial, though that’s mostly what people mean when they say it.

love doesn’t pay your bills.

a lot better to have the ability to be financially free than it it is to be financially dependent on someone else.

way too many folks mistake love for dependency.

Piefed has better features, but lemmy is less ideaological

He’s a liberal-elite and promotes liberal-elitism. If you’re not a liberal elitist, he’s not a force for good.

unless you’re branding your posts here with your real name and trying to monetize it, you’re not really using social media in the way most folks mean it in 2026.

social media is when it’s tied to your real life identity and your body, it’s not anonymous posting on forums or message boards, which lemmy is more in the vein of.

I don’t think anyone would regard my posts on forums and old.reddit.com as social media. if i had used reddit as a promotional tool for like my instagram business or as part of a personal brand I’m proving, yeah that would be very different.

IME real social media people are those who have basically internalized the concept of self branding and see their lives as entirely performative for their audience, whether that be internet strangers or their real life friend group.

I’ve told people that I hated my father since I was like toddler. Nobody ever believed me. They just lecture me that I don’t really mean that.

Not really a secret I guess, but it’s just something that people refuse to believe because I guess it goes against their ‘family is always love’ nonsense.

Also I did a lot of vandalism when I was a pre-teen. not really a secret either, but folks who find this out about me get really offended and upset, i think because they think I’m some uptight straight-laced person, mostly because I don’t drink or do drugs for awhile now. I did do a lot of booze and drugs from 16-20 though.

piefed is heavily filtered by default. you have to turn the filters off.

the PieFed people have their own weird agenda they push. They want things to be Disneyfied and ‘positive vibes only’. it’s not so much political per se, but they want to socially engineer user behavior in a way lemmy does not.

piefed blocking tools are superior to lemmy ones though.

they both softball their guests. they aren’t journalists, they are entertainers.

Thanks, that is a lot of great context. So they are trying to just downmarket the GPL-1 rush, since that stuff is mostly sold to rich folks?

discriminatory law is not about individuals actions, it’s about institutional ones.