I don’t know, small personal websites and webrings are having a bit of a comeback. Federated networks are humming along ,if not growing. AI is, ironically, making it much easier for people to build their own tools and ditch SaaS.

I still have hope for a decentralization comeback.

I mean, if the cause of their sadness is a lack of dick then I would understand the impulse. But the responder is still right, don’t tease a starving person.

To be fair “non-harassing way” is a bit subjective. I’ve seen dudes have success with methods that I would consider “harassing”. I’ve also seen guys condemned as creeps for approaching women at what I’d consider a reasonable time & place.

And the loudest most unreasonable people on both sides dominate the narrative online, which makes the whole topic seem more fraught to young guys than it really is in real life.

The truth is one person’s “playful teasing” is another person’s “harassment”. You have to develop your sense of empathy and feel it out on a case by case basis. Pretending this black and white doesn’t help anybody.

How exactly is that misogynist? Just because it’s a joke at a woman’s expense? The comment has nothing to do with gender or women in general.

I think you’re on to something. Probably not a coincidence that the increase in prudishness has coincided with the decline of anonymity.

I hate it.

Finally, one that’s truly ancient.

If a woman had made an identical comment about a dude posting with/without makeup photos it wouldn’t have drawn any ire.

It wasn’t objectification. He never insinuated that her looks were all that mattered, or that she wasn’t a unique snowflake of a person - he simply mentioned his own preference about makeup.

Lol, I’m not disavowing feminism. Your comments won’t change the mind of anyone who already had an egalitarian mindset - but in aggregate lots of comments like yours push away people on the fence, and entrench those who are already in a bad place.

If a woman made an equivalent comment about the before and after shots of a guy getting in shape or something it would rightfully not draw any ire. Jumping down the throat of every guy who expresses their preferences about women is not going to win us any allies.

People like you do more harm than good for the cause you’re fighting for. You are a living caricature of what actual incels use to justify their rotten worldview.