Still debating on whether or not I’m going to delete everything I’ve ever posted, but I’m leaving Lemmy. Will stick around as a mod for a single community but no more commenting and no more posting.
When I joined Lemmy like 3 years ago it was because this place was chill. People were more than willing to hang out and relax. Hostility wasn’t the first thing people went to. It was like reddit without the toxicity. It felt genuinely peaceful. Even if people didn’t agree, people respected one another. That’s why I loved posting content so much when I first started.
But then more and more redditors started coming over and that toxicity started to rear its head again. Now nearly every comment section I go to is just filled with the same type of reddit bickering. Arguing about tiny things or saying something is fake or the “I don’t know anything about this situation but I feel like it isn’t true therefore I don’t believe it” getting upvoted and rewarded while hesitating and looking into something is getting downvoted and ignored.
This is no longer the site that I was posting to. Fediverse or not, it doesn’t matter. The content has long since been corrupted and I don’t think there’s ever going to be a path back. Maybe I’ll start posting again in the future, not like anyone cares, but I just don’t see the point in it anymore. Everytime I post stuff I just end up with an inbox that I’ve got to go through and just get more and more depressed and deflated.
My life is fucking miserable. I am not happy. Lemmy was an escape but this place doesn’t make me happy anymore. It just compounds the misery and I don’t see the point in it. At least me sitting alone in my room, depressed and upset, won’t be made worse by having to deal with the dregs of humanity on every one of my posts.
Take care and I wish everyone the best. Everyone. I wish the trolls can be happier and can lay off. I wish the people going through shit can get a break and I wish those who are just vibing continue to do so.
I’m so tired.
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I wish you to get better. Farewell!
Adios amigo.
I’m new here. I have some “controversial” opinions
(Normal American opinions from 10 years ago)
I get accused of being a troll for my opinions.
It’s dismissive and incorrect and prejudicial.
There’a a difference between trolling someone to irritate them and be edgy and sharing an opinion that shatters someone’s delicate sensibilities
I haven’t seen many trolls here.
And when I do I just block them.
If you can’t do that, maybe free speech isn’t for you.
Facebook is still there.
Have you stopped to consider that you are part of the problem that is driving people away from here?
A. There are more users than ever
B. No I don’t really consider why people quit social media throwing a tantrum. It’s none of my business.
C. Block me if what I say hurts your feelings. Isn’t that the point of activity pub?
Just hear to speak my mind, share my perspective and experience others doing the same
Sometimes I don’t agree with what they say.
It’s ok.
Have you stopped to consider that you are part of the problem that is driving people away from here?
Clever girl
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Stamets, my man, every time I see your name you’re complaining about the community. You’re pining for a time when lemmy was dead AF, if you want a safe space to chill a public internet forum isn’t it. I’m sorry you feel miserable but posting memes for strangers was never going to fix that anyway, you probably need to get offline for a while and address why you feel that way.
I’ve only interacted with him a couple of times but they’ve all been negative experiences. He’s done the same exact thing to me, so I’m not surprised you got instantly downvoted.
He really was active when i joined, like 2 years ago. The Posts were good and all, but the one small interaction we had, made me retreat from any further interaction attempt.
I got instabanned for asking a question about the premise of a community he was the sole moderator of 🤷
K, see ya.
Yeah. I get ya. Now I just hang out in fandom communities as moderation in a few other places I would want to hang out is bad.
I have also started avoiding topics like religion as people have strong prejudices against it and any discussions are pointless.
You will be missed. And I agree.
I’m quite glad that people on Lemmy no longer enforce toxic positivity and just engage in debate like humans are meant to. Any sort of enforced false friendliness just feels alienating. I go on the internet to get my brain rotted out by how incorrect most people are about most things and get reassurance that this is why the world is going to hell. It might sound counterproductive, but at least it means I’m not crazy for believing that things can be good actually, and it’s entertaining because it’s all that’s left of humanity to me - to laugh at how much of a fuck up this experiment has been.
Toxicity is just disagreement, and we must fight about it to find out who’s right and formulate takes - that’s literally what actual reasoning in practice looks like.
Still, I hope you find whatever you’re looking for. I hope you get out of your depression my friend, I don’t know what it’s like but I hope it gets better soon.
I’m so sorry to hear this! Please don’t delete your posts. I’ve enjoyed them. I’m really sorry the vibe changed so much for you. All I can say is that after 10 years on Reddit and two on here, here is still way better.
Where would you go after this? The only other alternative I can imagine is old-school forums.
More like FedUpverse! (Did that do it too?!)
On a more serious note, I think it’s just a reflection of what’s going around that’s on everyone’s mind.
Yeah, behaviour-wise Lemmy has been going downhill the last years. For me at least it’s still way better than Reddit, but it’s different for each person. And I think that you’re doing the sensible thing here - it’s affecting you negatively, so you step back and take a break.
Everytime I post stuff I just end up with an inbox that I’ve got to go through and just get more and more depressed and deflated.
Ah, the “orange icon syndrome”. I know how it’s like.
Take care.
I show say to check out rednote but sadly the same thing is starting to happen over there too.
If you feel miserable and use Lemmy as an escape you definitely should leave. That’s anything but healthy. Go. At least for some time. Try to tackle your issues and come back when you feel better. You are always welcomed back!
Best of luck! ❤️
Take care, Stamets.💜 You will be missed.
Life, politics and all that is stressful. We have more activity now, which does bring a proportional number of jerks and assholes to the site. I don’t know how anyone in a moderator position here can stay sane looking through a steady stream of reported vitriol without an occasional break, even if the majority of Lemmings are respectful, understanding and decent human beings.
Hope you find peace and serenity, and you’ll always be welcome here or on another instance after a much-needed break for you.
I feel ya. A friend of mine actually quit lemmy over the same problem, too; if it helps he prefers pixelfed due to how calm it is, maybe try it out. Sometimes i think about quitting too, but usually i just leave lemmy temporarily and recharge.
Anyways, i haven’t interacted with you much, but i can say you’ve been such a great person. I’ll miss you and FS (-;
Good luck with your life, wish you the best.
