it’s nice cuddling weather 🙂😸

Have you ever tried volunteering? If you find the right gig you can channel all of that work energy into it, and the community benefits. And you make like-minded friends.

Yes. A start. As you get more confident, you can branch out a bit more and make more connections. It’s tough but it can be done. And you have your music (and Gibson).

Pour l’essentiel, l’homme est ce qu’il cache : un misérable petit tas de secrets. André Malraux

Translation: “Essentially, man is what he hides: a miserable little pile of secrets.”

StudSpud: “I say less secrets and more Castlevania!” Thumps table

I second tone. Have had to do the same myself because the same thing happens to me on occasion.

Have you tried calling your council to do a specific bin pick up? I have in the past when a similar thing has happened, they usually come next day.

I kinda feel like I should marry someone from a less desirable country even just as a favour to them. There’s some real shitholes out there where even struggling in Australia would be an improvement.

This is a country of immigrants. Such questions are shameful.

Er, yeah.

I place a lot of value on mental health - because treating it is fucking costly as well not just in terms of treatments/support/comfort, but also lost opportunities and time - so the gap in pay would have to be quite significant for me to stay on at a rapidly deteriorating workplace.

I initially took a fair bit of a pay cut (>10k/yr if you include allowances) from my old job to each of my two roles last year, but it was infinitely worth it for how much less stress was involved at work. And it’s paid off; the job I stayed on at increased my wage so much that the FTE is now equivalent to what I last earned (including allowances) but for FAR less stress and responsibilities in terms of colleagues as well as the workload itself.

Cannot recommend it more highly. Work often feels like such a bloody waste of time anyway, I don’t want it to eat up so much of my mental energy as well if my main financial needs are met

Hard one to be honest.

You’re probably being overworked and not being paid enough though I don’t know what that figure is.

Also they’ve made you a scapegoat with some of the stuff that’s happened and also I’m not sure what the future of the company is considering what’s happened so far but you do have a job.

I would take slightly less money to be a lot happier and have less of a workload if that makes you happy but also it’s often said the grass is greener on the other side.

Take less.

If my brain is functioning, apparently 80k is the happiness mark, beyond that it pretty much remains the same. There are also endless stories of people who had immensely well paying jobs who have taken drastic pay cuts and blue collar jobs and are exponentially happier.

While I’m in an odd sort of position, dropping a day when I was permanent to converting to casual and finally going elsewhere… So much happier. So much. (There were a couple extra things going on, but still. That feeling that you have to be there, when you don’t want to… Ugh.)

Thought you were working on an expungement?

I’d take a pay cut for peace of mind, particularly after hearing about all the crap you’ve been through there. Working for a (hopefully) more professional and reputable org will likely mean better job security and advancement opportunities in future, too. Whatever you decide, good luck!

I would take less money to leave, provided it’s not a huge drop for a like-to-like role (like up to $10k or so). I was in a similar situation to you once, never regretted leaving and then working on increasing my salary at the new job once I was in the door.

Hm, I’d leave, even if the pay is slightly less at the new place. One of the most important aspects of society today is mental health, and no matter how much money you make, if a workplace is contributing to a severe decline in your mental health it is always best to move on!

You spend a third of your life at work, so you need to be happy and safe there. Your better deal is going to come with strings, so it’s not really better. Take less dollars for peace and support because it will cost you less in the long run.

You current place sounds like a cross between thunderdome and a sinking ship. I’d try to leverage you current salary against the new offers, but, assuming they’re all over $75k, I’d accept a 10% hit for a job at a better place. At the first performance review I’d be pressing for them to at least match the old salary.

🤞

Cookies are today’s DD Thread theme. 🍪🙂

really like the coles honeycomb ones! but 3 bucks a packet is taking the piss a bit

I’ve got a thing for Tennant.

Oh he is a delight 😎

When I volunteered at Lort Smith, many people were there to build up their resume for animal/vet roles. In case you’re looking for more ways to get good things on your resume.

I had an interest in a certain line of work around 10 years ago. I literally drove to those companies unannounced and asked the the owners if I could chat about the career for a bit. To my surprise they were very accommodating and answered all my questions. It helped immensely.

Maybe try that?

E: maybe make an appointment first lol. I can be passionate and impulsive at times.

Good luck :)

I don’t know much about careers and stuff but if they’re equally appealing you could go for whichever has the higher salary, so you have a bit more financial stability if you want to change to the other one in future?

Or whichever offers experience to help you get into the other (if it works like that)

Well done!!! Sometimes the hardest part is just getting started and I think you’ve nailed it!! You got this!! So proud of youuuu! 💜💜💜

Yay you! Such a good feeling getting past one of those mental roadblocks